Unpopular Opinion: Brides and Anyone Else Getting Married Should Design Their Own Rings

Or at least have a really really REALLY good friend who knows their style inside and out.  Even then I’m a big fan of at least going to a jewelry store and trying the damn thing on.  Hear me out.

The year was 2018.  My now husband, David, just inherited a ring from his grandmother.  A true blessing that propelled us into the next phase of our lives. 

Of course, we went ring shopping.  Who doesn’t go ring shopping after inheriting a golden ticket to do so?  I thought I was set on my ring design.   I had sent it to Dave a million times, something to bookmark if my “what if” ever came true.

Then I tried the ring on.  This gorgeous, solitaire ring with a pave band and pave basket looked like actual shit on my finger.  Imagine a ring on a hot dog—that’s what it looked like on my hand.  Never in a million years did I think that would happen.  I told Dave we were back to square one. 

I’m not alone in this, either.  Ask almost any women who’s tried on a ring ever in her life.  Most of the time the design she thinks she wants isn’t what she wants.  And this is why I tell anyone and everyone who maybe wants to get engaged one day—let the ring wearer design the damn ring.

I did end up getting my dream ring.  And I am fully aware that we are TRULY blessed.  Not everyone gets a five-figure ring on a four-figure budget.  Like, that literally does not happen.

But please keep in mind that this was after I tried on dozens of rings, picking and choosing my favorite elements and bringing them to our jeweler who was willing to work with us to come up with a completely new design.

Try it on.  Try a LOT of them on.  Go with your gut.  After all, you’ll be wearing this piece for the rest of your life (god willing).  And there’s nothing worse than getting your ring and realizing you want to upgrade not 2 years later. 

Find a great jeweler (family and friend recommendations are a great place to start).  Find a jeweler who is willing to trade diamonds and/or white gold as well. 

And remember, at the end of the day, YOU are the one that has to (ok, gets to) wear it.  Your opinion is truly the only one that matters, but don’t tell anyone else I said that.

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